Friday, April 29, 2011

An orphan

Little Man is an orphan. About a month ago, his mother's parental rights were terminated. Dad's too, but he's hardly worth mentioning since he didn't even try to step up for the little guy. Mom tried. She came to the visits, she tried to get her life together, somewhat. The problem was that the areas where she really needed to change, she didn't see what "the big deal was". She still is involved with a very bad man who beat her and had a child abuse record.
Anyways... the termination hearing lasted 2 full days. The judge ruled a week later that rights were terminated. Wow. I knew it could happen, and that it probably should, but it seemed so harsh. The calls had to stop, the visits ceased. No contact. Suddenly. About 3 weeks later he and his brother had a final visit with mom. And that's it. Now he's up for adoption and it will be up to his adoptive parents to decide how the relationship will work between them. Human services is going to try really hard to keep the boys together and they think they will be able to.
Just recently Little Man started trying to call me Mom. He'll say, "I'm going to call you mom now". But then he'll forget and call me by my name. He's been crying alot lately. Missing his mother, not understanding the ruling. How could he understand? And all I can say to him is that he'll understand when he's older... that everyone just cares about him so much, they want him to be super safe. That he's just that special. But what do you say? It sucks to see a boy cry for his mother.

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